Is reality TV going too far?

dating_naked_still.jpgwritten by:Angelica Bitto

Reality TV continues to grow and continues to be the biggest thing on television, we have everything from cooking shows, singing contests, and even dating shows. But is it starting to get too much and are we pushing the boundaries of some reality TV? The Bachelorette is a good example of a dating reality show, sometimes The Bachelorette can be very extreme and seem very scripted at times because you are putting all these men in one house fighting for one girl. If that doesn’t seem like a very crude way of finding love then maybe there is something else that will make you question dating and its “reality”? That something else is “Dating Naked,” which airs on VH1.

“Dating Naked” matches up several heterosexual contestants who are routinely switched with other contestants. They must remain completely naked for the duration of the date but when they get back to the house they have the option of being able to wear clothes again. They do blur the genitals of both sexes, female breasts, and occasionally buttocks. Amy Paffrath was the host for the first two seasons but was clothed the entire time while filming. The first season was filmed on an island in Panama. The second season was instead filmed in the Philippines and it was re-titled “Dating Naked: Playing for Keeps.” For the third season, they changed hosts to Rocsi Diaz and filmed in Bora Bora.

I believe that any dating show is kind of ridiculous. I mean, are you really going to find your true love in a show that requires you to let everything hang out and you are at your most vulnerable? Are you going to find love from dating all these different girls and guys and at the end of the day be able to pick who you want to spend the rest of your life with? “Dating Naked” is trying to break the boundary of being hidden that you are not able to hide behind your clothes but I honestly believe if you want someone to fully respect you meeting someone for the first time naked doesn’t seem like the best way to do it. It just seems like they will solely base who you are by appearance because you are putting everything out there. What I think they are trying to do is not have you judge right away because you are both supposed to feel a little shy about being naked and you wouldn’t want someone judging you based on what you look like naked right off the bat.

In cosmopolitan, they interviewed one of the hosts to hear about what happens behind the scenes of the show. Amy Paffrath explains how the show like this gets started. There was a recent trend in 2013 for “naked television” and the producer for “Dating Naked” wanted a twist on all the dating shows that have been on reality TV. Paffrath says the show “it’s more than just stripping away, clothing, but also the barriers that stop people from finding a connection with someone-whether that’s the social barriers or the physical barriers. She also explains that the nudity was not a part of the audition process but they had a final casting round where they had to make sure that they would all me comfortable with being naked in a room full of people and surrounded by cameras. The people they cast is a very wide range of ages from young 20s to 45 male and female. They don’t really keep the same ages all together they mix in ages, bodies, ethnicities, heights, and weights. “We’ve got a group of real people with real bodies and they’re just all comfortable in their own skins.” Says Amy. Then they ask the hard questions like if the girls make snap decision about their dates’ equipment? Amy says that there has been some childish behavior when it comes to that and some are snarkier ten others. But for the most part they were all respectful because they were all naked and in the same boat. “As much as you’re judging them, they could be judging you right back. Guys can feel strongly about women’s breast sizes too!”  Which is what I feel like can cause problems with something like this. The contestants could be judging people right away and because of their appearance will not give them a chance which brings me to something that happens to one of the contestants on the show where the world was able to see everything.

There was an incident with this show a while back and Huffington post writes that “‘Dating Naked’ star is suing because everyone saw her naked.” In a strange twist of fate, a naked reality star is suing VH1’s pants off says Huffington post. During an episode that aired in July of 2014 New York model Jessie Nizewitz claims that the cable network aired uncensored footage of her private areas. Jessie is now filing a lawsuit for 10 million dollars and since the NSFW editing did have an error she might have a case. “Obviously, I did not expect the world to see my private parts,” reports Variety. “As far as the fallout from the show, the reality star says her grandma is giving her the cold shoulder and the man she had been dating (we’re assuming regular, mostly-clothed dating) isn’t calling her back.” Other sources have said that she has been mocked and bullied online. What my concern with this whole thing is that she agreed to be naked and filmed and yes, she did agree to have all parts blurred but I think you risk the fact of having things seen by others right when you agree to do the show.

          For “Dating Naked” as the viewer am I supposed to be amused at the fact that these people are purposely going through these things strictly for the fact that they believe they will find love through these means.  Because if you think about it these shows are done for our entertainment. So why is it so entertaining for us why are shows like these so popular in America? Why are we giving them these view?

8 thoughts on “Is reality TV going too far?

  1. I agreed with 99% of what was said in this blog post. I have always felt like these types of shows are my guilty pleasure in television, even though in the back of my head I know I hate them. The fact that “Dating Naked” is considered to be an actual television show to help people find love is bananas. I think that dating shows in general are all fake and will never really capture the true essence of falling in love. The same goes for shows even as popular as “The Bachelor”. Honestly, congratulations to any contestants that find love and even go as far to be happily married, but I don’t believe much really goes on between any of those contestants after shows like that end. Great input on “Dating Naked”.
    -Joel DiMambro

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  2. I think this is a great article! I enjoyed how you are exploring Reality TV with a critical eye. I have stumbled upon the show “Dating Naked” before (sadly) because I think that this show is a scam! It’s just a bunch of people who get a free trip and have to stay naked on dates! This show is literally promoting “if you look good naked, you will probably find your soul mate.” Are you serious? Why is this allowed on television? Looks are not everything (important part though). I hate to be that person but, people judge, we all do. That is just a part of our human nature. This show is a clear representation of that. Some of the contestants will take a look at their new date and will already make up a decision on sight just from the other persons physical appearance. I do not find these shows entertaining, I find them to be awful and mock real true love. –Alexa DiFilippo

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  3. Great article, I really enjoyed reading about this topic! I’ve been noticing a lot of “naked” themed shows lately and have thought about the same issues. Are these shows exploring the intricacies of sexuality and body image? Or are they just pushing our cultural buttons and begging us to watch? I think the argument Amy Paffrath makes is a little bogus though- the way she explains clothes being something that hinder us from real connection just makes it seem like shes a TV exec that is hungry for views. On the other hand, maybe this is a real factor? I’ve never been on a naked date, so I couldn’t tell you. But I do agree with what you say about dating shows nowadays to be ridiculous. I like to think of myself as a romantic, but I’m also a bit of a “kids these days” style curmudgeon, so I don’t know how to feel either! Overall, awesome article, great work!
    -Bre Moran

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  4. I could not have agreed more with every word in this blog post. I think that shoes like the Bachelorette have gone way to far to what it used to be. I have never watched “Dating Naked” solely because of the points you make in this article. All of it seems way to fake and I don’t find any enjoyment in watching two people go on a blind date..naked. Even after reading your post, it makes me not want to watch that show even more. I really like the points you make when you said “are you really trying to find your true love while you let everything hang out”. Although there is a back side to the show in that it helps you reveal your whole self and this and that, I don’t think relationships would last outside of the show.
    – Dana Pappalardo

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  5. I agree completely with this blog post about “Dating Naked” and reality TV that any dating show is kind of ridiculous. I believe that shows like “Dating Naked”, “The Bachelorette”, and others are fake where they pretend to be something they are not and it is the complete opposite of what falling in love should be like. The fact that “Dating Naked” is even allowed on television where with all the graphics and with “The Bachelorette”, it does not matter who falls in love on that show most of them break up a couple of months after they get married.
    -Tyler Mauriello

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  6. I have to agree with what you said about reality television and the “Dating Naked” show specifically. I think reality television is sometimes just a waste of time. I have watched “Dating Naked” before even if I know I’m not truly a fan of the show. Reality television is just something I feel that people watch as a guilty pleasure. Dating shows in general I feel are fake and scripted most of the time. It’s just really not good television. I liked that you brought up that they sometimes are there thinking they will fall in love and then it sometimes never really seems to work out. I just think these shows really don’t serve any purpose other than entertainment.

    – Mathew Galvao

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  7. I really liked this blog post, I will admit that The Bachelor is my guilty pleasure and while I’m all for Reality TV shows and Dating Shows I agree that Dating Naked is taking it too far. The fact that Amy Paffrath is claiming that clothes prevent us from finding love is ridiculious. first of all, the fact that most couples on the bachelor don’t make it after the seasons are over is a good indicator of how manufactured Dating shows on television are in the first place. I also thought it was interesting that you brought in multiple veiw points, like the legal case involved with the show where someone sued for being seen naked which is what the show is about, it baffles me that people agree to go on a show like that but then if they don’t like what they see they try and turn around and pin it on the show as if they had agreed to go on something completley different. I really enjoyed this blog. I like how you question why we watch these sort of shows, yes shows like the bachelor are entertaining but with a show like dating naked I would question why people watch that. the question is where should the line for reality television be drawn? overall a really interesting read, it kind of reminded me of one of the segments on Ellen where she talked about bizzare reality shows that exist. – Sarah Seero

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  8. I can say I 100% agree with your points on how silly these reality TV shows are. Like you said, there really needs to be a line drawn somewhere here, but we just do not know where. This show is sort of similar to another one called “Naked and Afraid” where the participants are stuck in the wilderness with no clothes. Shows like these really are pushing their limits especially with censorship and legal issues like the one you mentioned. I really enjoyed reading this blog and it really made me think more about the trashy shows that are on TV these days! – Danielle Breton

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